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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • I used to feel the same way with mirrors and actually wanted to write into my will that all photos of me must be destroyed upon my death. The idea of being permanently recorded terrified me.

    I think therapy really helped, since if anything my appearance has strayed further from my mental image. That’s not to say it’s the same for you. It’s a relief to me that I’m not the only one who has felt this way, and I hope that you find some relief from the feeling itself too.


  • I just learned about this, and think I have it too, to an extent. I’ve grown more comfortable as I move age and transform closer to the hag witch I was born to be.

    It’s called a fear of being perceived, or scopophobia. Apparently it’s common with neurodivergence (though I personally wouldn’t consider myself neurodivergent- at least not enough to seek a diagnosis).



  • I try to treat everyone as though I might be the first drop of kindness they have seen in some time, and my mantra when I find it difficult is “be kindness”- as in, choose the kindest option available to me at the time.

    THAT SAID, I would not call myself a nice person, and if I was asked this I would elaborate that I try to be kind. I’ve known a handful of people who call themselves nice and I’ve been disappointed in their lack of patience and grace for others. Nice people don’t need to say they’re nice.








  • I’m not sure if you’re able to pursue citizenship, if it’s something you’re after, but in terms of the “unique” accent- you don’t owe anybody an answer if they ask “where are you from?”

    You can tell them you’re English. You can tell them you grew up in England, truthfully. You can tell them English is the only language you speak. You don’t owe anyone your backstory. If you’re feeling petty or vindictive you can lie and say you have a speech impediment. I know their intentions are likely good but by inquiring about your accent, they are othering you. It’s up to you how you’d like to respond.