The few conversations I’ve had there have been unproductive and inflammatory. While even in other instances when I’ve said something someone disagreed with they would at least support their statement. Also no one would tell me why the “Confused Unga Bunga” meme is racist but they keep accusing me of it. I’m all for open discussions but even the comments there are so angry and toxic.

Edit: I’m reading every comment and taking everything people said and considering all sides. My stance on the phrase has changed but I am still hesitant about giving hexbear a chance. I’ll sleep on it though.

  • DrPop@lemmy.oneOP
    10·
    10 months ago

    You’re right and I understand that now but maybe because I compartmentalized it differently in my head as different from “ooga booga” which is highly racist. Thanks for actually explaining it to me. Language is weird.

    • RoomAndBored [he/him, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
      183·
      10 months ago

      Also I have to say, I’m not the only one ‘actually’ explaining it to you. My comrades in this thread appear to have taken pains to unpack what’s wrong with your attitude and word choice multiple times before me. I just rephrased what they have by and large already said, so they deserve credit too.

      • DrPop@lemmy.oneOP
        8·
        10 months ago

        Gimme 10 minutes, and yeah you put things in terms I could understand.

        • RoomAndBored [he/him, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
          181·
          10 months ago

          No worries. I’m glad we could resolve this. Please try to engage with the other comments in this thread with the same approach you afforded me. I assure you that each and every other poster in this thread is motivated first and foremost to dismantle harmful tropes.

          We usually resort to ridicule and close ranks after people show no intent to engage with any one of us sincerely, like for example when posters ignore one person’s effortful response, only to take issue with another’s elsewhere in the thread.

          • DrPop@lemmy.oneOP
            10·
            10 months ago

            I thought I was in a hexbear thread but I kept getting buzzwords thrown at me. It’s awfully jarring and did not help with me understanding the situation. I know it’s not an excuse but sometimes my autism makes it hard for me to see the proper path through the conversation.

            • RoomAndBored [he/him, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
              16·
              10 months ago

              All g. We probably wouldn’t call them buzzwords, since that implies that they’re ephemeral or faddish.

              More often than not we’re using terminology that is specific to the left, or defined differently in leftist academia and discourse to the common usage (see, liberal, imperialism, etc.).

              If you’re unsure about the meaning of a given word, it’s worth searching online first, then asking further in your replies if it still doesn’t make sense. Citing your sources is invaluable so you and your interlocutor can interrogate the same info and talk from the same page. We have a (relatively inactive) comm for these types of questions too, and a space for neurodiverse members too.

              I don’t have autism so feel wary giving specific advice on how to navigate. However I do find that signalling -why- you are asking a certain question (as you have done elsewhere in this thread), and providing further context, can help people understand your thinking behind a given comment or post, and may help against them assuming the worst and responding with a knee jerk reaction. We get many people trying to cause trouble (‘wreckers’) and some people consider it better to shoot first and ask questions later, since it saves time if the person turns out to be malicious.

              I was fortunate to have lurked for a very long time, way back to r/srs and the r/srs rehab equivalent comm. It’s been a long journey but I’m glad you’re asking the same question I had around then, as it shows self awareness.

              Have a good one.