It’s not always that simple. For beach volley, I saw athletes commenting that shorts are worse because of the sand getting in the way. Men would chose something better in a different culture. There’s sexism I believe, but it’s not always what we would expect.

I have an account in beehaw too, and it’s usually the one that interacts with the world. It’s considerably different from a different instance.

Have you considered that you’re a people pleaser? Being kind and nice is good, but do you do that in detriment of yourself? Can you say no to favors?