You forgot the last frame.
Me: <tells friends how I’m feeling> Friends: “that sucks.” <pained expression>
Turns out talking about your feelings doesn’t help if no one can help with the problem.
Speaking and sharing what you’re going through rarely fixes problems, but it does help as…
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a moderate pressure release for you, by simply letting the frustration loose can help relieve the stress of hiding the emotions and behaviors,
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gives people around you context to your (likely noticeably) different behavior along with the opportunity to offer support, guidance or material help, and
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either speaking or writing an unformed idea that’s vexing you has a finite benefit by taking a fluid, nebulous, unwieldy feeling and capturing it in amber, pinning it down to something that can be refined, examined and (hopefully) mitigated.
For more on this third point, see this article on how one can use writing as a thinking exercise, helping refine and distill ideas into more-satisfying understood truths.
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There’s two sides to that coin though. Often times people just want to vent and trying to solve all their problems for them can be frustrating.
Totally agree, but unless you’re comfortable asking which one the person with the problem would prefer, it can be challenging to know which path to take.
I guess you could argue that if you’re not comfortable enough with this person to ask, then the person might not be comfortable seeking solutions.
My relationship with my spouse massively improved when we started telling each other which we prefer for each situation.
The strong can complain, even steel groans.
Is this LOSS?
I know I shouldn’t say this.
haha this is a careful reminder that language experts have been combing over old orthodox greek texts, and reminded us that the stoics never made an exception for women and slaves. That shit was added by misogynyst and racist Europeans long after the fact.
Also, additionally, the stoics would hate some of the self proclaimed stoics of today, because they don’t understand stoicism, let alone any other philosophy.
In fact, if anyone calls them self a stoic, chances are they are repressive, delusional and living in their tiny, disinformed and narcecistic bubbles and listen to Andrew Tate as well as Joe Rogan podcasts, both which also would be hated by the stoics, because they are fake intellectuals.
“But stoics don’t feel hate”
You can’t possibly be this stupid. They had an absolute disdain for anti-intellectualism, or those who posed as intellectuals.
The real crux of stoicism? When do you apply scepticism, when do you apply cynicism, what notions do you actually entertain in your brain hole? That’s it. It’s literally a priority system for your brain.
Ipso facto: these fuckfaces with podcasts ain’t stoics. They’re just narcecists.
It reminded me of some masterfully done music videos!
Bromance[1]
Friends For Never[2]
[1] Bromance (Official Music Video) | 03:46 | Pop, Rap, Comedy | nigahiga | https://youtu.be/EJVt8kUAm9Q | https://genius.com/Nigahiga-bromance-lyrics ↩︎
[2] Friends For Never - The Midnight Beast | 03:50 | Pop, Rap, Comedy | The Midnight Beast | https://youtu.be/_UlEv_t-fxc | https://genius.com/The-midnight-beast-friends-for-never-lyrics ↩︎
That is uncommon, a pizzacake one that is not shitty. Thank you for sharing!
I thought it was shit…
