I used OkCupid for some dates before I found my now husband. It took quite a few dates on my side, but I just considered that par for the course. For him, I was his first date on OkCupid. For that matter, I was the first man that he dated, though he had dated a girl in high school.
Unfortunately, in the decade since we’ve met, I think both straight and gay oriented dating apps have probably taken a turn for the worse. We both had extensive, descriptive profiles and talked for a long time before meeting up. I keep hearing that the gay apps have turned into mostly hookup apps, but I can’t speak for straight apps.
Met my girlfriend through OK cupid too, and had the same experience. But I can tell you the app got tinderfied over the years.
Used to be you’d just be able to message people and see how you matched from looking up. When I last used it it already hid people behind a swipe system, only allowing people to talk when they both had swiped right.
The swiping apps usually feel they’re used by people less interested in what I wanted. For op I’d tell him to use OK cupid if he likes to answer those profiling questions and wants to find someone who also does. For swiping, tinder works best.
I used OkCupid for some dates before I found my now husband. It took quite a few dates on my side, but I just considered that par for the course. For him, I was his first date on OkCupid. For that matter, I was the first man that he dated, though he had dated a girl in high school.
Unfortunately, in the decade since we’ve met, I think both straight and gay oriented dating apps have probably taken a turn for the worse. We both had extensive, descriptive profiles and talked for a long time before meeting up. I keep hearing that the gay apps have turned into mostly hookup apps, but I can’t speak for straight apps.
Met my girlfriend through OK cupid too, and had the same experience. But I can tell you the app got tinderfied over the years. Used to be you’d just be able to message people and see how you matched from looking up. When I last used it it already hid people behind a swipe system, only allowing people to talk when they both had swiped right. The swiping apps usually feel they’re used by people less interested in what I wanted. For op I’d tell him to use OK cupid if he likes to answer those profiling questions and wants to find someone who also does. For swiping, tinder works best.