I met a girl that I’m interested in and enjoys comics like I do, would something like asking her out to a comic store be dumb? I have a hard time talking to girls so not sure if this would be a dumb idea.

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    4 months ago

    The hardest part of meeting girls is talking to them. It takes guts to put yourself out there and resilience to handle the rejection if it doesn’t go the way you want.

    Ask her out. A public option is good. Something she likes. Comics are a good start if that’s her thing.

    If she says ‘yes’. On your date:

    • Be very hygienic (shower, clean clothes, brushed teeth, gum)
    • Ask courteous questions and listen. I have yet to meet someone that doesn’t enjoy talking about themselves (yes, I know they exist). This also makes your end of the conversation easier. Favorite music, food, places to visit, hobbies, etc.
    • Have a next place in mind if things are going well, but the comic shop has gotten stale (coffee, dinner, a walk somewhere well lit, etc.). Be open to her suggestions.

    If she says ‘No,’ be respectful, and try not to take it to hard. It wasn’t meant to be. Take pride knowing you had the guts to try.

    Good luck. Be brave. Be respectful.

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      4 months ago

      I like how you guessed that a guy who is really into comics and doesn’t know how to talk to girls might have a hygiene problem.

      Not saying you’re wrong, but it was pretty bold.

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        4 months ago

        Nah. I’ve heard plenty of horror stories from women. None of which were about comic guys. I’ve had coworkers that were painful to be around. So that wasn’t really the assumption.

        … That said I’m pretty sure I’ve read about conventions and ccg tournaments where they had to start making rules because hygiene was so bad.

        Either way, best to cover your bases.