Good friends of mine would like a reprieve so they can have their anniversary dinner. I’ve been a camp counsellor and was pretty good at it but those kids were all 6 years old, this one is 13 months old. Adorable kid but I figure maybe some folks here might have good ideas/thoughts/suggestions/crass jokes?
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Be prepared to be bored out of your damn mind, periodically delighted, and always realizing that yes they somehow found scissors while you looked away long enough to see what time it is. Note: 6 hours haven’t passed, it just feels like it.
You can go to the park and come home 6 times. Each time will be an adventure.
They love water. You need to supervise but pouring liquid between vessels is fun. Same with sand. You’ll probably need to change their clothes 3-4 times anyway so it doesn’t matter if what they are doing messes up their outfit. DO NOT leave a kid like this unattended if they are not confined in a very, very safe place. Ask parents what they do when they need to use the washroom and do that.
Make sure you have a good line up of parent approved snacks and drinks.
You might be able to buy some time with a video but better is to get some raffi songs going and show them how to clap, have a dance party (well away from stuff they can hit their head on etc - you can do this seated).
Figure out the potty training situation but kids this old get upset when away from parents and can regress so could mean they have accidents. If this happens don’t get angry. Just change them and back to playing.
Good luck.
If you have trusted friend or relative they can watch them while you use the washroom or google how to get you keys out of the toilet (do not give them your keys or phone - memorize that).
These are great ideas and I’m stoked to try them! Never heard of the pouring liquid idea but it makes total sense. As does NOT sharing keys or phone.
Also might sub classic ska for Raffi as part of my ongoing mission to give her the weird lest flashbacks when she meets stoners in college. (Last time when she was even younger we spent a half hour rocking to sleep to Burning Spear.)
Wow, I would rock my son to sleep while playing Burning Spear! Babies love Dub I guess.
Or we just have amazing taste.
No, that can’t be it.
I always listened to different genres with my son (still do)!
Very relevant username
Amazing write up. Saving this one for later.
I can’t stress how important this is: babysitting does not, in fact, involve sitting on baby.
Well, that is a very misleading term then!
Hello. Proud parent of a 2.5 year old and a 6 month old here.
At 13 months, that kid is probably getting the hang of walking. They very well might not stop exploring for the entire time, other than a 1-2 hour nap or bedtime depending on what time you’re babysitting.
Ask the parents about nap/bedtime schedule, feeding schedule (they are likely still on a mix of bottle/milk plus food, though, maybe not), and if screen time is allowed. I’d imagine they’ll give you all that info without you having to ask, but you never know.
The key is to be aware. At 13 months, they might try to get into every drawer, cabinet, dog bowl, garbage bin, etc. they can find. They will also head straight toward any stairs you might have. Don’t let that kid out of your sight. Other than constantly trying to seek out danger, it shouldn’t be all bad.
You got it just right, she’s close to walking but mostly navigates by holding onto things and walking.
Some great thoughts here, thanks! (Though I suppose I will ask about screentime. My plan was to trick her into enjoying hockey but I suppose permission would be polite.)
Be ready with your camera in case she takes her first unassisted steps then. You may get lucky and be the one who’s there for it.
Also, you might want to bring ear plugs. My kid (same age) has had a rough day with teething and gas and the screaming gets a bit much. You have to watch them way more closely with earplugs in, but it might just save your sanity.
If you hope they won’t do something (immediately crawl off, grab something specific, sneeze a mouthful of food in your face, reach their hand into the poop you’re cleaning off them) they’re totally gonna do it. As soon as it’s physically possible.
Basically as long as you keep her from getting hurt or mentally scarred you’re doing great, and as long as you pay attention you can manage that.
It’s going to mean a lot to them to have a few hours together without a baby around. Try to enjoy it. They grow so quickly, by the time you get a chance to do it again it’ll be completely different.
Ooooh, really good point on the camera. I’ll be the best babysitter ever if I can get those first steps on camera.
And you’re fully right on it being totally different. Months ago I babysat her but she couldn’t really move around on her own so while a bit scary wasn’t “be in your guard for escape attempts” daunting.
I’m excited though!
Consider mom and dad want to be there for first steps and might be happier if you kept quiet, lol
Best baby sitter ever probably does not film and never mentions any unassisted steps happened. Mom and Dad have been slaves to this kid for over a year and deserve to be there for first milestones (or at least believe they were there). Best babysitter swoops in and picks up the kid to prevent actual first steps so that way they don’t happen and no one has to lie
Good points.
I forgot about the headlong charges at stairs.
I have a 19mo/old and I’ll say at 13 months they are still taking naps and sleeping early so it won’t be that bad. They are probably walking, but not very well, they are probably not interested in videos yet. You will spend most of your time feeding them, or them sleeping depending on what time the parents are doing their anniversary dinner.
I’d expect if it’s a proper anniversary dinner, the kid will be sleeping for almost all of it. So you shouldn’t have to worry too much.
Good point. Do not mess with the sleep schedule!
That is all reassuring, thanks!
Do not sit them on a couch, no matter how confident in their equilibrium you are. Did this once and kid rolled forward smacking head on coffee table. Kid probably fine today, but I will never be the same.
Oh boy, good warning! I was thinking we might watch some hockey together so that’ll have to be done quite carefully if at all.
This is the reason for all the throw pillows. You take them off the couch and place them strategically in areas where the kid could roll/fall.
At 13 months this works; at 18 months the daredevil gene kicks in and the kid will dive from the couch to make sure the cushions work…
Ooooooh, I love this! (The 13 month non daredevil version. For 18 months, I’m thinking duct tape.)
Heh “probably”…
Don’t let them drink bleach and you should be fine. Play Dad Simulator to prepare.
Put on Bluey.
This is true whether kids are around or not to be fair…
Bubbles.
Play with those soft duplo stacking blocks. Play with stuffed animals. Build a fort. Sing songs. Piggyback rides. Read colorful thick page toddler books. Puppet shows. Snack time. Dance to music.
Great ideas!
Not sure if you’re male or female, but just in case you’re male: when you change the little one’s diaper, make sure you only wipe front to back! My husband has never changed a diaper before (though he had lot of experience with kids) and now that we’re expecting a girl I was surprised to learn from other moms he wouldn’t know this without someone saying it explicitly. If she has a diaper with poop, start swiping to clean under her belly button and only ever go towards her bottom, always cleaning downwards! You can give her an infection if you raise her legs and swipe towards her front! Better to go through many wipes to get all of her completely clean from front to back.
Good advice, definitely important! I babysat her when she was even younger so have learned about the front to back but always good to have a reminder!
13m is dangerous. theyre just getting mobile, and thats when watching them gets a bit tougher… i bet this one will be wobbly on 2, but lightning on its knees. watch for it.
this particular age was fun because they are easily amused, easily startled, easily confused and if theyre in the right mood, they love all of it.
infants/toddles generally get upset for very few reasons so a good short list to run through is ‘change diaper -> food -> tired -> bored’ constantly if they get fussy.
id prolly plan a bunch of diff toy sessions, a quick trip to the park after which theyll nap like hell and by the time they get up and likely eat again its time to go.
I lile that cycle plan, great idea, thanks!
It depends on how mobile and energetic the kid is. Mine were early walkers and had tons of energy, so I mostly remember physical games. The ideas below might be too much for some 13-month-olds.
Try making a very simple obstacle course game. Put pillows or couch cushions on the floor and crawl from one to the other. Maybe make it a race and count how many seconds it takes for the kid to get across all the cushions.
Stack pillows and cushions and let the kid knock them over. Or stack blocks and let the kid knock them over. If they enjoy it, repeat ad nauseam.
As someone else said, playing with water can be a big hit. Splashing in a warm, shallow bath could kill half an hour. Get a cup so you can scoop water and dump it to create a waterfall.
Get plastic cups and talk into them to make silly sounds.
Walk to a park or playground nearby.
These are great ideas! I’ve heard she likes smashing structures so I think you’re definitely on the right track.
Much appreciated!
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I see it’s a joke but that is nowhere near funny.
Ok, Karen.
Make sure you know location of diapers, wet tissues, milk, bottles and method of warming milk and extra clothes. Check diaper regularly, especially if they start grunting or screwing up their face. Usually they’ll pong straight away. Get them to drink water regularly (they don’t have the habit yet) and see if they want warm milk every couple of hours. A bath is entertaining but be prepared for more prep with towel, more clothes and talcum powder and whatever. And weather permitting they might not want to stay wet for long.
