Even with a good career and all the “adult milestones” I don’t feel like an actual adult. I feel like I’m pretending to know what I’m doing. Anyone else experience this?

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    There is a paradox of confidence.

    The people most confident in their competence tend to be the least competent in practice.

    The Dunning–Kruger effect.

    Self-cheerleaders tend to be morons, the most intelligent people by their nature tend to second guess their own abilities. Idiots just stroll through life taking whatever credit they can grab.

    “The only thing I know is that I know nothing, and i am no quite sure that i know that.”

    -Socrates

    "Throughout my life, my two greatest assets have been mental stability and being, like, really smart.’

    -Donald Trump

    See the difference? By genuinely doubting, aka examining your abilities, you are in more competent company.

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      more people oughta read about and pay attention to philosophy shit is actually pretty interesting. if nothing else just to see how predictable the uneducated monkey brain is.

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        I’ve always considered the “why” to be the most important question for me.

        In our society, the answer is almost always money, which is a means and not an end, and so western culture seems to be miserably grinding itself into the dirt, usually without ever looking up and asking what the deeper point is.

        It’s really very tragic to me.