In the last year or so I started to see so many people of my age that have done truly incredible things and still doing more.
For the vast majority of my life my only goals were gettimg academic satisfaction and doing unproductive stuff in the free time to get temporary pleasure. No end goal whatsoever.
I kind of don’t know what I’ve been doing in the last 17 years while someone gets a patent on solar systems, other invents a new recyclable plastic, and another found a successful startup. I mean, they all find what they’re supposed to be doing with their lives and excel in them.
I feel overwhelmed for trying to pace up with these kind of people. Yet I don’t like the way the things are and I can’t do anything but envy those people.
Anyone with experience in this regard? How did you deal with this? Did you eventually “pace up” with these people or was it too late or an unattainable goal?
Edit: Whoops, I didn’t expect so many replies! Thanks, I’ll look into them all

  • PixelFerret@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    No matter how you get there, we all end up the same way, just remember that.

    I spent 14 years with an abusive (ex-)wife and I didn’t achieve anything. Felt like my life was wasted. But you know what? It wasn’t. It’s all life-experience. It has shaped who and what I am today, and the person I am today I’m damn proud of. If you can call yourself a good, decent person, that’s success to me.

    Don’t measure yourself against others (like everyone else says). Find your values, and if you excel in those values, who cares you didn’t change the world? Or hold a patent? What is “Excelling at life” aside from making yourself and the people around you happy?

    • starclaude@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      just because we are all die doesnt means anything, the important thing is the different experience and journey that each of us have been through